Couples Counseling

Resentment, hurts old and new, life transitions, parenthood, or the passage of time can leave people feeling isolated and deeply misunderstood in their relationships. What was once a joyful source of love and companionship can come to feel like a stale and frustrating cycle of painful compromise.

I help couples who would like to deepen their sense of connection and the feeling of being on each other's side. This often means coaching effective and honest communication while also enhancing the ability of each person to think, feel, understand and be themselves in more authentic ways. 

As each person engages in this process and witnesses the other doing the same, both can come to feel understood by the other. Just as importantly, both people can develop an appreciation for their ability to surprise, and be surprised by their partner.

There are no guarantees or quick fixes and the ultimate outcome can vary. Sometimes, both people feel strongly that they can continue to grow alongside one another in the relationship. For others, respecting each other's agency and well-being means agreeing to part ways. Either way, when a pattern of relating is recognized as stifling and unsustainable, relationship therapy can be a powerful catalyst for change so that something that more dynamic and fresh can take root.