Relationship & Couples Therapy

What Relationship Therapy Can Be

Two people (romantic partners or non-romantic family members) can seek out relationship therapy to help them address the challenges between the them - things like communication, old and new hurts and resentments, betrayals, sexual issues, transitions, parenting, medical complications, stress, or contemplating a major change in the relationship. While a reduction or resolution of conflict might be a result of relationship therapy, it is not always the only goal.

My aim is to enhance the ability of each individual to think, feel, understand, and be themselves in new, more authentic, and sometimes surprising ways. As each person engages in this process and witnesses and supports the other in doing the same, both can come to better know and feel better known by the other. Just as importantly, both people can develop an appreciation for their ability to surprise, and be surprised by the other.

While there are no guarantees, by engaging with this process, a relationship can gradually come to feel less like a stale, frustrating, painful, and repetitive cycle in which both people feel like they have to compromise on issues of vital importance. In its place, something that feels a little more dynamic, fresh, and enlivening can begin to take root. Conflict does not disappear, but "fighting" is more likely to be the kind that promotes growth, vitality, spontaneity, and intimacy and less likely to be the kind that maintains "stuckness," distance, and deadness. 

The ultimate form of this kind of relational transformation can vary. Sometimes, both people can come to feel that remaining in a committed relationship feels like a rich soil from which they can both continue to grow together. Other times, respecting each other's sense of vitality and wellbeing means agreeing to a critical shift in the nature of the relationship, like limiting contact or divorce. Either way, when a pattern of relating is recognized as stifling and unstainable, relationship therapy can be a powerful catalyst for change.

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Next Steps - Scheduling a Free Consultation

If the two of you feel ready to schedule a confidential consultation, you can do so by emailing me at or calling at 215-253-7592 to set up a time to talk.

Please know that I'm happy to spend this initial time answering your questions, getting to know a little about the two of you, and getting a sense for how good of a fit we could be, even if we ultimately decide not to work together. If any of us decides it's not a fit, there is never any obligation to continue.

More Questions?

Many people have mixed feelings and want to be as sure as they can be that they are working with the right therapist before making any decisions or commitments. Research suggests that finding the right fit is so important for meaningful and long-lasting changes. To that end, please see the Frequently Asked Questions page for more information.